A bunch of us had just finished a rather intense game of floor hockey and were on our way out of the gym when this girl (and other girls) attacked us with snowballs. Most of the guys just shrugged it off, a few threw snow back. But not me. I chased down the girl who instigated the attack, grabbed her around the waist and threw her into the biggest snow drift I could find. I then buried her in said snowdrift. She was laughing so hard she wet her pants. This may not have been the most gentlemanly moment in my life, but hey, no one is perfect. In modern times, one of the seemingly lost arts to many men is the ability to act like a gentleman. Now before all the ladies get to overjoyed at the fact that I am picking on the guys today, I am just going to give you a heads up, your turn is coming. Anyway, back to the gentlemen. What is it that makes someone a true gentleman? Is it just holding the door open for the ladies, or is it something much deeper? For me, and keep in mind that this is my personal opinion, acting as a gentleman is the first step towards being a man. When I say man, I mean a real man, not just an adult male. When it comes to talking about what it takes to be a man, there are many different opinions and thoughts on the subject, some of which are good, and some of which are a load of garbage. Anyway, being a gentleman is, in many ways, like being virtuous. It is practiced by doing certain actions, whether you understand them or not. At first it may require a lot of thought and concentration, but after you have been doing it for a while, the actions just come as second nature. For example, if you make it a point to always hold the door open for the ladies, eventually you won’t even notice that you are doing it, it just becomes a habit. These actions, however, do not make one a true gentleman. It is merely the beginning. Now that you have the actions down, you have to have the attitude that goes with it, and that attitude can be summed up in a single word, honor. Not your own honor either, but the act of honoring someone else. You could also say service. It is not something you do because you want to be noticed, but simply because it is the right thing to do, or the way someone deserves to be treated. As men of God we should show special respect to all women and help them to realize how precious they are in the eyes of God and they do not need to wear immodest clothing to be beautiful. Women are worth so much more than that. One of the keys to being a man of God is understanding how to honor, respect and treat women. I learned the hard way that this does not involve whitewashing them.
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
Being a gentleman: and how I made a girl wet her pants (January 13 2008)
A bunch of us had just finished a rather intense game of floor hockey and were on our way out of the gym when this girl (and other girls) attacked us with snowballs. Most of the guys just shrugged it off, a few threw snow back. But not me. I chased down the girl who instigated the attack, grabbed her around the waist and threw her into the biggest snow drift I could find. I then buried her in said snowdrift. She was laughing so hard she wet her pants. This may not have been the most gentlemanly moment in my life, but hey, no one is perfect. In modern times, one of the seemingly lost arts to many men is the ability to act like a gentleman. Now before all the ladies get to overjoyed at the fact that I am picking on the guys today, I am just going to give you a heads up, your turn is coming. Anyway, back to the gentlemen. What is it that makes someone a true gentleman? Is it just holding the door open for the ladies, or is it something much deeper? For me, and keep in mind that this is my personal opinion, acting as a gentleman is the first step towards being a man. When I say man, I mean a real man, not just an adult male. When it comes to talking about what it takes to be a man, there are many different opinions and thoughts on the subject, some of which are good, and some of which are a load of garbage. Anyway, being a gentleman is, in many ways, like being virtuous. It is practiced by doing certain actions, whether you understand them or not. At first it may require a lot of thought and concentration, but after you have been doing it for a while, the actions just come as second nature. For example, if you make it a point to always hold the door open for the ladies, eventually you won’t even notice that you are doing it, it just becomes a habit. These actions, however, do not make one a true gentleman. It is merely the beginning. Now that you have the actions down, you have to have the attitude that goes with it, and that attitude can be summed up in a single word, honor. Not your own honor either, but the act of honoring someone else. You could also say service. It is not something you do because you want to be noticed, but simply because it is the right thing to do, or the way someone deserves to be treated. As men of God we should show special respect to all women and help them to realize how precious they are in the eyes of God and they do not need to wear immodest clothing to be beautiful. Women are worth so much more than that. One of the keys to being a man of God is understanding how to honor, respect and treat women. I learned the hard way that this does not involve whitewashing them.
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